Gay Bathhouse Etiquette Bathhouse Etiquette. Bathhouses, first and foremost, are a place for men to have sex. It is a sexual playground for men to do whatever they want. A place to get sex 24/7, like a 24-hour convenience store. Come to think of it, the Baths are like a supermarket. You can shop for…
Why Gay Men Go To The Baths You may be sitting in front of your computer reading all of these stories, wondering why I spend so much time in a bathhouse. That is a totally fair question. This essay will give people a better understanding as to why I and so many other gay men…
Racism Or Preference? The first two entries were to lay down the foundation for my stories. Right now I want to tell you a little bit about myself. Even though I am in my thirties, I still look a decade younger. Anytime I meet someone new, the first question they ask is “What are you…
Chubs and Chasers Some men who go to the baths are there to look for a specific type of guy that isn't normally found in a bar, or a restaurant, or even in the personals. Sometimes you have to go to the baths to seek the man that fits your ideal type. Case in point,…
Being Homeless At The Gay Baths The weather has been absolutely crazy. For those who say that global warming is a myth, are clearly in major denial. The past couple of days have been below –10. We have gone from one extreme (hot drought in the summer) to the other (cold frost in the winter).…
Making The Connection It has dawned on me that there is an entirely different reason (other than the sex) as to why so many gay men go to the baths. What is it? It is the need for gay men to connect with other gay men. Making the connection. Why is there this need on…
The Politics of Oral Sex The number one sex act performed at the baths is oral sex. There is so much oral sex going on at the baths, you see it everywhere. In the whirlpool, the shower area, the lounge, the list goes on and on. It is not uncommon to see oral sex performed…