About Me

About me, welcome. I am a Gay Asian Male in my early forties. But like all Asians, I look a decade younger. The following is a Gay Bathhouse Blog of my experiences and encounters in a Gay Bathhouse setting over the last twenty years.

Since I was 21 years old, I have visited the baths for over ten years; usually once a week, sometimes two or three times a week. I have gone at all hours: morning, noon, night or very late at night. Through those visits I have met some of the most diverse and interesting people. Had amazing conversations with men I've never met before. And seen things that I never knew about, without having to learn about from an episode of “Sex in the City” or “Queer as Folk”. Everything from Glory Holes to Bukake action is written about. I want to share my stories.

I started writing these stories because I noticed that no one had ever talked about what goes on in a bathhouse. You can find many erotic stories written about encounters at the baths. But there are hardly any books written about the politics and the whole culture that takes place behind the doors at a bathhouse. Believe me, it is a whole other world. By writing about those topics, I hope that people come away with a better understanding of a gay bathhouse. It should not be looked upon as a dirty word.

I will not tell you who I am, or what city I live in. I will say that these stories originate in a vast urban North American city that has a very large and diverse gay community. The city could be Akron, Atlanta, Austin, Buffalo, Calgary, Cathedral City, Chicago, Cleveland, Columbus, Dallas, Denver, Detroit, Edmonton, Flushing, Fort Erie, Fort Lauderdale, Honolulu, Houston, Indianapolis, Jacksonville, Key West, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, Mar Vista, Miami, Milwaukee, Montreal, New Orleans, New York, North Hollywood, Orlando, Ottawa, Philadelphia, Phoenix, Pittsburgh, Portland, Providence, Rochester, Saint Louis, San Antonio, San Diego, San Francisco, San Jose, Seattle, Tampa, Toledo, Toronto, Van Nuys, Vancouver, Washington DC, West Hollywood, Wilmington, Windsor, or even Winnipeg. At least one bathhouse is situated in the cities listed above.

These are my stories – Me.

42 comments for “About Me

    March 8, 2017 at 10:10 PM

    Did I ever tell you about that night at the Vulcan in SD ? Well I was in the jacuzzi with a bunch of men I wasn’t really interested in but I ended up with somebodys big toe up my ass. Everybody maintained a straight face.
    Also I think the whole small dicked Asian thing is wrong. I have sucked a lot of Asian cock and I can say they cum in every size. In fact the smallest dick I ever sucked belonged to a blonde twinky white boy.
    LOVE your blog keep it up.

  2. Rico
    February 25, 2017 at 7:28 AM

    This is likely not the right place to ask this; feel free to move or delete it if so. I’m wondering if you (or people more generally) distinguish between bathhouses and sex clubs. I’ve been to the two bathhouses where I live, in Philly, but I have this image in my head – maybe from fiction, porn, fantasy; maybe not existing in real life at all – of places that the bathhouses I’ve been to just don’t compare to. I’m sure the bathhouses here aren’t exactly state of the art, (if they are, get me some money and I’ll put together one that’ll blow your mind and a lot more), but I don’t think what I’m referring to is just the difference between a so-so bathhouse and a great one; I think they’re two different, likely related, animals, – but maybe one of those animals is a figment of my imagination. Thanks.

  3. Joe
    August 9, 2014 at 9:06 PM

    OK I stumbled upon this site today and glad to see you are still writing about your experiences. It’s been a while since I followed your escapades, way back when I used to go to the baths myself in NYC. I enjoyed reading stories about all this in the (New York City) Village Voice.

    Your writing was/is way better and I used to send you the papers to prove it. If this rings a bell, hi!

  4. uttam0
    March 20, 2014 at 7:30 PM

    I think I have read a truly meaningful set of articles, informative, entertaining, and human too. I also admire the author’s insight and emotional maturity. wish he writes more, and emails me promptly saying so!

  5. lino
    March 7, 2014 at 11:01 PM


  6. February 11, 2014 at 2:42 PM

    Love It!

  7. Ken
    August 14, 2013 at 2:36 PM

    Love your site, as Iā€™m a longtime bathhouse attendee. Will spend many happy hours going over all you have done.

  8. J
    November 8, 2008 at 9:44 AM

    OMG! I stumbled across your site, and EVERY ONE of your diary entries spoke directly to me! Your words and experiences TOTALLY reflect my own experience. The fears when a newbie. The frustrations of rejection. The joys of cuddling. And on & on! So poignant! So on the mark! It was as if you were writing my own diary as well! Dang, if you’re not already a professional writer, then you should be! Your words so incredibly resonated with me. Thank you, thank you, for such a wonderful, honest, insightful, and poignant site. ****** You know, I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve received hundreds of requests from those visiting your site, wanting to know who you are and contact/meet you. When you write such personal, resonating experiences, its not surprising. However, I’m sure you want to maintain your privacy, and can’t reply to such requests. Understandable. However, just in the event that you DO reply to occasional guestbook signers, I would be honored if you would reply to me. (If it matters, my description is: GWM, 38, same phenomenon as you–still young/boyish looks, despite being older– 5’10”, 140#, blond, blue, slim 5K-runner’s build, boy-next-door acting (regular; not femme, not macho), LA/OC California area. So…Hope you’ll consider emailing me. Thank you! Kind regards, –J

  9. Jorge
    June 15, 2008 at 2:26 PM

    Usually I visit a blog just to look at the guys, and paid no attention to what they write. But yours is so different. I even understand some of my own experiences now. I think you should be a writer.

  10. Juicy Boy
    May 5, 2008 at 2:38 PM

    Have you shopped your stories to an independent filmmaker yet? A few of these stories would make a great gay movie.

  11. Saviour
    March 19, 2008 at 10:36 AM

    Jeesh…what a mess this blog is.

    It’s 95% advertising and 5% content.

    You spend a lot of time complaining about how your revenue stream is down.

    Well…first of all…try getting a real job…

    Second of all…try not misleading people with links to ‘free’ porn that are actually sign up pages for pay porn.

    As a bigger issue…your business model is based on the idea that gay men are still entranced by gay bath houses.

    That really isn’t the case.

    As men have become more able to meet each other in public and have relations without fear of prosecution by authorities…the need to hide out in sleazy bath houses has subsided.

    I’d maintain that most young gay people don’t even know what a bath house is.

  12. John M
    November 26, 2007 at 10:43 AM

    What a pathetic blog.

  13. Damon
    May 28, 2007 at 10:11 AM

    Great site but I seriously believe all those ads with sites that only feature “all-American white men” undermines EVERYTHING you wrote; I really do. Maybe it’s because that’s what your into and this site is simply a front for despising the fact your not able to get em but whatever the reason is its disheartening.

  14. Artemis
    April 28, 2007 at 8:18 PM

    Get a life; you know where you are going to go when you die now, a sphere of total lust and addiction. Free your spirit and lift up.

  15. Joseph
    March 9, 2007 at 10:40 AM

    I just found your site, and am really enjoying it. I work at the Club St. Louis, and everything that I have read here rings true. Thank you very much for taking the time to write about the industry that I work in.

  16. smoothmuscle
    February 11, 2007 at 10:43 AM

    Hi, your Blog is great, lots of good info and a turn on too!

    I’m wondering how you found the bathhouse in your area. I live near Rochester, NY. How can I find my “local” bathhouse? Thanks, and please keep this Blog going, it’s great.

  17. John
    December 9, 2006 at 5:20 PM

    As an older GWM I compliment you for this website, and for the exceptionally well written essays. You are obviously very bright and capable. Thanks for sharing so openly about your experiences and for being so unusually honest about what you know to be important in the bath house culture. It was most refreshing and informative.

  18. Randell
    December 2, 2006 at 2:56 AM

    I enjoyed the heartfelt words.

  19. Steve
    November 16, 2006 at 5:56 AM

    I LOVE your site! The tales are wonderful and insightful. I’m a white man who has had the best, most dynamic sex of my life with Asian men–my only problem is, there aren’t enough of them in the NYC area! šŸ™‚

    I’d like to get to know you better (as a person, not as a sex object–though if you wanted to go that way, pardon me for not resisting). I’ve attached my email here, and hope that you’d use it. I’d like to know more about your life. And if you know of a good bathhouse in the NYC area where Asians congregate, that would be cool too. šŸ˜‰

  20. Peter
    October 22, 2006 at 12:24 AM

    Hello, I like your site. Best regards – Peter

  21. John Doe
    October 16, 2006 at 1:40 AM

    All you have called the Bathhouses is the “Bathhouse”. What name would it be under in Calgary as I am unable to locate it.

  22. Will
    August 4, 2005 at 11:29 PM

    Hi-I thinks your writing pieces about Asians are stupid. Maybe GWM reject you because you’re ugly, but that doesn’t mean all GAM’s are ugly as you. I am a GAM and I attract very attractive GWM AND GAM. You live in a very little bathhouse world. I think you’re pretty lame if you need to go to a bathhouse to get sex. True studs get it anywhere. Peace out, you freak!

  23. Eric
    March 27, 2005 at 2:35 AM

    I am a GWM, rice queen, bottom, who has been to a number of bathhouses (probably some you have been to). I loved your candor and your sharing your experiences. You are perceptive.

    If you are ever in Cleveland or Akron or Columbus, let me know where you are going to be. I’d let you have me.

  24. Jennifer
    November 28, 2004 at 12:35 AM

    Hi. You maybe don’t get too many female readers, but I just wanted to thank you for your most informative website essays. It is wonderful that you have taken the time to share so much information with the public in this way. I’m sure that many men have found the information specifically useful if they haven’t been to a bathhouse before. However just on a sociological/informational level, I found your website fascinating and read almost all of the essays. It was eye-opening, as I knew nothing about the details of this subject before reading your site. You have a way with your writing that shows a true compassion for other people, while sharing even the not-so-great facts about the situation. You seem to be very insightful (and sweet — but hopefully you won’t take that as an insult) (I know how some men like to protect their machoness). šŸ™‚ Thanks again for making the effort to share your thoughts and experiences with the world.

  25. October 1, 2003 at 8:27 PM

    Great Stories!

  26. Robert
    August 28, 2003 at 11:34 AM

    I read some of the stories and it made me jerk off a couple times. I want to go to a bathhouse now. I live in Detroit, MI, are there any bathhouses in my area. Any info would be appreciated, thanks.

  27. Nap
    March 16, 2003 at 4:51 PM

    Bravo for the courage to put your bathhouse log on line.Don’t blame too much on your Asian background. In the gay circle, if you are fat, starting losing hair, passing the age of 30, you are out of the game.

    • F.A.
      March 17, 2003 at 8:57 PM

      Hey “nap” why don’t you just go on and eat your poutine or croissants and shut up. People that have filters in their mind that automatically say no Asians, no blacks, no Indians, etc. is a form of racism you stupid turd. En Francais ya stupid fool.

  28. February 26, 2003 at 10:28 AM

    Love your writing, although I don’t agree with all of it, it is well written, sincere, and enjoyable to read! good luck in your future!

  29. Heselwood
    January 14, 2003 at 12:43 AM

    I like your stories and your sensibility. I would like to see a photo of you. I hope you have find a job. Please answer, it would be so nice. Keep doing…

  30. Tara
    December 21, 2002 at 3:25 AM

    Have you ever thought of turning this into a screenplay or selling the rights to your story? I love your stories.

  31. Alix P.
    December 23, 2001 at 1:52 AM

    You seem to be a very good person and your writing reflects your personality. Keep up the good work.

  32. Mark
    December 7, 2001 at 12:24 PM

    It’s sad when reading you’re stories. we share so much in common (appearances and taste 4 man), that’s why I feel so related to you’re articles. I also feel I should be alone and dateless the rest of my life but I’m not going to give up the sex w/ whites. then the future hurting is always there waiting 4 me. anyway, I’ll have my another heartbreaking trip to San Francisco , San Diego and Las Vegas soon in Jan. Can u provide me some advice about the baths there? I thought about telling u my stories but afraid that u might not be interested. well, if u do, u can drop me a line. thanks 4 creating this site.

  33. Lorne
    October 2, 2001 at 10:44 AM

    I really enjoyed reading your stories. You are a very observant and adept writer. Thanks for all the time you’ve spent on them. I will return to read more!

  34. Anonymous
    August 28, 2001 at 9:54 PM

    You have obviously never been in a meaningful male-male relationship. Sex is always different; usually most enjoyable with someone that reaches an interest/curiosity/stimulation. Closeted has little to do with it. Sorry, you don’t get it. Cute little ditties you write, but shallow, naive, limited.

  35. Curious
    July 8, 2001 at 9:59 AM

    i wonder which part of Asia were you from and where are you residing in… i also would like to know more about bathhouse culture

  36. John
    June 29, 2001 at 2:28 AM

    I was very impressed with the stories. I felt bad for you that you feel you’ll always be alone and single. You sound very sweet and kind. My kind of man. I met a wonderful friend at a bath in a foreign country and truly fell in love. It was one of the most wonderful experiences as well as one of the saddest ones.

  37. Mathhew
    May 14, 2001 at 8:22 PM

    Bath House Trash, Go away!

    I draw the line with those trash house memoirs. You can keep your sorted little stories between you and the rest of the desperate sluts you meet out at the trash parlor. You have got to be an old dirty man.I really hope that the newly out impressionable men don’t take any of that trash to heart. Do what you want but don’t bring that trash in here.

    • Kostar
      May 14, 2001 at 8:25 PM

      Curiosity killed the Kat…. Now, whoever wrote that, obviously went and checked it out. i think someone is embarrassed about their bathhouse fetish.

      • BillyC
        January 28, 2017 at 8:36 AM

        Amen brother!

    • BillyC
      January 28, 2017 at 8:35 AM

      Gotta love a judgmental ignoramus!

      First, and least importantly, it’s “sordid” not “sorted”. I think that was about 6th grade vocabulary?

      Second, haven’t we, as a sub-culture, suffered enough judgment, constraint and, generally, suppression of our rights that we, of all “minority” groups, should be celebrating our brothers’ right to enjoy their lives how they see fit? Certainly even an up-tight, bitter queen like you should have that right. One can hope you’ll evolve to the point where you see that and can give into the community instead of loathing yourself and spreading the cancer of non-acceptance from within. (But to hope that, given your obvious lack of character, intellect and knowledge, would likely be a fool’s errand.)

  38. Josh
    December 27, 2000 at 11:20 AM

    Jeez! I wish you were in my town! I love Asian guys. I’m 28 years old, very masculine and in shape but have had no luck finding ANY Asian men in my city… poor me!

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