Chubs and Chasers

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Chubs and Chasers. Some men who go to the baths are there to look for a specific type of guy that isn't normally found in a bar, or a restaurant, or even in the personals. Sometimes you have to go to the baths to seek the man that fits your ideal type.

Case in point, Malcolm. Now Malcolm is newly out and very hot. He is blond, has blue eyes, broad shoulders, tall with a firm muscular body. A grade school teacher by day, at night he searches for his ideal guy that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. I met him by chance one day at the baths and we struck up a conversation. Of course with his looks I was attracted to him. But then I found out what his type is, and I lost all hope of making the grade with him. For him to have any remote interest in a guy they have to be big, as in 350 to 400 pounds! Needless to say, I was quite surprised. As we continued our conversation a number of guys were continually passing by us, giving Malcolm a look, a nod, a stare, a brush against his body, and major eye contact. But Malcolm was totally oblivious to the attention. When I pointed this out to Malcolm, he shrugged and said, They are not big enough. And one of those guys was at least 200 pounds!

Now you might be scratching your head, asking yourself, why is Malcolm looking for big guys in a bathhouse Well think about it. The gay community is (and I do not care what part of the country you are in) more or

less 99.9% superficial. You are accepted or rejected as a person based on your overall appearance. In short, your looks determine your overall popularity. If you look like a supermodel, you have no problems being accepted. Anything else, and you might as well be invisible. A line in the movie, Broken Hearts Club said it perfectly; "This is a community filled with 10s, on the prowl for an 11. And unfortunately, I'm a 7. " That is how a lot of Chubs feel. Going to a club or a bar, Chubs cannot help but feel invisible, like they don't even exist. So a lot of Chubs do not go out at all. They have been hurt so many times by the constant rejection from the gay community. It has become so disheartening that many Chubs retreat further and further into their house. Why put up with that rejection night after night

But bathhouses are different. As I have mentioned, the baths is the only gay environment where you can see a cross-section of the gay community. Every group is there, all interacting amongst each other. Each and every time I visit the baths there are at least one or two Chubs walking the hallways at any given time. And although rejection is part of the territory at the baths, a lot of these Chubs feel safe in that atmosphere. If you get rejected there are other things a Chub can do. Take a sauna, sit in the whirlpool, or watch porn. Now if you really want to find a cub at the baths, head to the dark room, where anonymous sex is truly anonymous! The dark room is pitch dark, so you can't see anything. Let's face it, since the gay community is looks obsessed and superficial, the dark room is a place where chubs can feel on an equal level with everyone else. The dark room is a place where Chubs can get laid, anonymously of course, albeit in total darkness. So if you are looking for a chub at the baths, the dark room is a quick palce to find them.

Bathhouses know Chubs are a regular part of Bathhouse culture. They actually have king size towels, ready and available for any Chub that might drop by the baths. Amazingly, a lot of guys who like Chubs, like Malcolm, have been tuned into this. They know that a majority of very large guys go to the baths seeking comfort. So the Chasers go on the prowl, hoping to find a very big guy. And if that doesn't work, Chasers will go on-line. For instance, Malcolm spends time scanning profiles on sex websites looking for a Chub. If he finds one, he sends them a message, asking the Chub to come over to his place. But many of these Chubs are wary, not sure if this is a prank or not. So Malcolm proposes the next best thing. Let's meet at the baths. And so, over the years I have seen Malcolm arrive at the baths with different Chubs. Two hours later (!) I notice him and his Chub in the shower area washing each other up after sex. And then afterwards, Malcolm and his Chub take a dip in the whirlpool and just hold each other for what seems to be a long time. Doesn't that sound sweet

But it is not just Malcolm. I have seen my share of hot, good-looking guys come to the baths searching for a Chub as well. In fact, some of these guys are even friends of Malcolm's! They ignore everyone else, but when a 350-pound man hits the scene, they pounce. I remember one time I was taking a shower and this cute muscular blond guy came in and started to take a shower by himself. A brunette guy noticed this young blond guy, and immediately started to cruise him. The young brunette guy started stroking his erect dick, hoping to attract the blond guy. Suddenly a 350-pound Chub walked into the shower area, and immediately the Chub and the blond guy started kissing and rubbing soap over each others body. It was obvious that they were a couple. The brunette guy looked stunned for a split second. Then left the shower area, hoping to find someone else. Like I said before, no matter how hot you are, everyone gets shot down at one time or another!

Another group that has no hesitation being with a Chub are GAM (Gay Asian Men). Why, you might ask Again as I've mentioned in previous essays, GAM are obsessed with anything that is white. GAM will go out with white men that are 65 year-old or 450 pounds, or even both! As long as they are white, that is all that matters. Again, it is that need to build up that empty vacuum of self-esteem that all GAM have. And the only way to fill up that empty vacuum is by being with a white guy.

So for any Chub reading this, let me assure you that there is hope. There are cute guys that find you HOT! So if you are a very large man, and a bit nervous about taking the plunge to meet new people, think about this.

In life, good things happen and bad things happen. But if you do not take a chance, nothing happens.

A line straight out of Golden Girls!

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20 comments for “Chubs and Chasers

  1. Frank
    July 18, 2013 at 10:13 AM

    I am an older Fat 65 y/o male white man who is Bi. I love to deep throat and most always swallow what my throat works up for me. But I am a Fat man 390 6’2 5.5 cut smooth no hair except a crew cut. I have made eye contact but never at a bathhouse. Would anyone pick me up if I were a fat man?

    • Kim
      August 3, 2013 at 9:28 AM

      No, you’re old and fat, and chances are, if you make eye contact you will be ignored or repudiated.

  2. Mike
    January 11, 2009 at 9:38 AM

    Thank you for your candor. I am a Bi-sexual chub, (5’8″, 260 Pounds). I do go to the baths here in Vancouver, and have had some good times. It is frustrating that much of the gay community is so focused on looks. The baths are a place where I feel comfortable. There is one great gay bar on Davie Street that is really good,as well, but the baths are the place! BTW, I love Asian men!

  3. April 1, 2007 at 12:40 AM

    Love the story, as a chubby chaser myself I do have to say this, I have been with chubs of all races, yes Asian too, big woof to akiroho a Japanese sumo I met at the Northern in Queens new York, but I have fucked black, whites, brown, yellow chubs at the Northern.

  4. RickLINY
    February 18, 2007 at 10:41 AM

    Very interesting perspective as a “chub” that has is passionate about Asian men. The thought of success at a bathhouse was far fetched. I must try it for myself. Any info relative to bathhouses frequented by Asians would be appreciated.

  5. DJ
    February 7, 2007 at 12:35 AM

    I love chubby guys! Looking in Chicago

  6. July 24, 2005 at 9:48 PM

    Love chubs

  7. Juan
    August 17, 2004 at 1:39 PM

    I am always attracted to Asian & Latin men but they don’t like me, I’m a white “bear” & they want the gym-toned “clones”, so I totally disagree with your findings. I have over 30 years of experience in men.

  8. Dave
    January 12, 2004 at 7:31 PM

    Your story really touched me. I’m a big guy who has become increasingly stay-at-home because I don’t feel comfortable around younger, “proportional” guys. I had no idea that big guys had a chance at the baths. Your piece has given me the courage to take a chance.

  9. Drew
    August 11, 2003 at 12:23 AM

    Interesting, well articulated comments about baths in general and cultural difference in particular. I’m a white guy and, though clean shaven, skew bear (5’9 220#) and I’ve def. noticed that I get a whiteness premium with cute guys of other ethnicities being into me.

    For whatever reason I define “guys like me” not in terms of whiteness but in terms of above-optimum-weight-yet-athletic…that sort of look that suggests touch football AND maybe a little too much beer. And I’m all about the beefy Korean dude instead of the Abercrombie white dude (even over the Abercrombie Korean dude) but I realize this is a minority (sic) opinion. I also prefer listening to old jazz but I don’t see a lot of that on the charts either.

    For whatever it’s worth on the being young and into Asian guys tip…for as long as I can remember being attracted to guys, I have been attracted to Asian American guys but not Asian-from-country-of-origin guys…call them Asian E.S.L. guys. This isn’t true for me with other groups…all things equal I’m just as interested in a Mexican guy from Mexico as I am in a Mexican guy who grew up in Seattle. So I don’t know what THAT means…I’m not interested in the shy/demure/bottom Asian guy, I want the “hey dude” Asian guy.

  10. Kevin
    July 31, 2003 at 11:58 PM

    Was wondering, do you know of a therapist in the L.A. area who is experienced with sexual preference issues, especially deeply embedded ones? You mentioned you saw a therapist. I’m a straight man who is addicted to gay porn (“chubby bear” stuff), and I compulsively masturbate to it. I’m reading a book called: “Healing The Shame That Binds You” by John Bradshaw to help heal the crap from my childhood (very abusive mother). So maybe part of the reason is not thinking I’m not good enough for attractive women, though I’ve had relationships and sex. Just looking for a tip. Or maybe communication on this. (I’m definitely not even bi – I’ve set up meetings through the internet, and it was awkward, because I had no attraction to the guy’s body, even good bodies). But I always wanted to talk to them.

  11. Willis
    July 26, 2003 at 12:04 AM

    I am a GAM and love heavy senior like Rev.Jerry Falwell.Do you know what I mean? Do you know which bath house has lot a of fat old men in Atlanta, GA?

  12. Chubwatcher
    February 23, 2003 at 9:06 PM

    Your stories are wonderful. I’m glad I came across your site!

  13. Bob Steele
    August 25, 2001 at 2:07 PM

    Say hello to Malcolm for me… although, he likes 350.. and I’m only 265… and trust me… it makes a difference to him… even when you’re with a guy who you think will find you a ten… you wind up being a “7” sometimes… hehehe

  14. Siroco
    August 23, 2001 at 4:29 PM

    Hello, every day I read one chapter it is so good writing and make me feel good even if sorrow, to see that other seems this world in the same way. I’m 50years old and a bit chubby … you know thanks to your chubs links I’m beginning see this people sexy. I like to get older and discover new feelings, for instance here as you said , are very ignorant about Asian people even though and right now we have a lot of newcomers. Well last year I met someone from Hong Kong in a sex shop , formerly I was not interested at all about Asians, and since then I have been 3 times in south east Asia and next Oct. I fly to Vietnam to spend 16 days vacation. Many thanks for your work.

  15. Morrie Johnston
    August 21, 2001 at 7:55 AM

    It’s a great site, have only read a couple of stories but it’s book marked in my Favourites and as the big fellas says “I’ll be back”. Just wanted to say I think you have a marvellous site. I’ve only read 3 stories but will read a few more in the next half hour, before putting on the VCR for West Wing. We have 3 saunas in Sydney, and my favourite is Kens Karate Klub, called Kens, because it’s in the suburb of Kensington, just out of the CBD of Sydney. Your writing is excellent and very perceptive and I look forward to reading more. I must take issue with your statement about Asian men. I think Asian men are the sexiest men around, with smiles, usually short and stocky, impish, and full of fun. That may be stereotypical but that’s the way I find them. I’m 51, so could be called a boring old fart, but I had a fling a couple of years ago with an Asian lad of about 25, who cruised me in a bar. He was a photographer for the local gay newspaper, and we were both waiting for a drag show, which was running late as usual. Anyway, you don’t want to hear about that. Thanks for your writing, and I look forward to reading the rest of the page.

  16. R Guha
    April 25, 2001 at 2:32 PM

    I agree with the chubs and their chasers. I find it mysterious myself, being a chub, but there your are. There are young guys, handsome, great bodies, and virile seeking that cuddle-some, older chub, (like me, and I am only 47y, greying and balding; and only mod. chubby at 100kgs). Love to hear from younger guys wanting to meet with me.

  17. February 6, 2001 at 3:46 PM

    I have been to bath houses in San Francisco, Atlanta, Cleveland, Montreal, Toronto, Vancouver, Calgary, Winnipeg, Seattle, Dallas and Paris. They have ranged from dives to upscale. But I have enjoyed each and everyone of them for their own character. I love the casual nudity and the freedom. Sometimes I am being chased by studs all night and sometimes no one seems to notice me. I am just an average guy. What I do know is that if I go in with an attitude that nothing is going to happen that is generally what does happen. And sometimes I do, sometimes I just want to hang out naked chat and relax in the steam room. But I doubt you don’t get anywhere just because you are Asian. One of the nice things about the baths is that people are usually willing to try something they wouldn’t do at a bar. I personally am not usually attracted to Asian but would go for an Asian boy next door like you. In Vancouver there were many Asian guys all enjoying themselves with a variety of other men. Great stories, very insightful and enjoyable! Thanks for sharing!

  18. David
    December 10, 2000 at 4:15 PM

    I have read about what you said, well I a Bearish (okay over-weight white guy) and I am ALWAYS being hit on by Asian men. I am only 38 and as you say you like white guys. well I like HAIRY men and most Asian men are smooth. So I am not in the market for again men but that is who hits on ME 90% of the time and I am not hairy at all, more peach-fuzzy. SO I can relate about Almost never getting anything at the baths. Better luck to you.

  19. December 9, 2000 at 3:15 PM

    Hi I’m Caffodian. i like big men eh?

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