Some men who go to the baths are there to look for a specific type of guy that isn't normally found in a bar, or a restaurant, or even in the personals. Sometimes you have to go to the baths to seek the man that fits your ideal type.
Case in point, Malcolm. Now Malcolm is newly out and very hot. He is blond, has blue eyes, broad shoulders, tall with a firm muscular body. A grade school teacher by day, at night he searches for his ideal guy that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. I met him by chance one day at the baths and we struck up a conversation. Of course with his looks I was attracted to him. But then I found out what his type is, and I lost all hope of making the grade with him. For him to have any remote interest in a guy they have to be big, as in 350 to 400 pounds! Needless to say, I was quite surprised. As we continued our conversation a number of guys were continually passing by us, giving Malcolm a look, a nod, a stare, a brush against his body, and major eye contact. But Malcolm was totally oblivious to the attention. When I pointed this out to Malcolm, he shrugged and said, They are not big enough. And one of those guys was at least 200 pounds!
Now you might be scratching your head, asking yourself, why is Malcolm looking for big guys in a bathhouse Well think about it. The gay community is (and I do not care what part of the country you are in) more or
less 99.9% superficial. You are accepted or rejected as a person based on your overall appearance. In short, your looks determine your overall popularity. If you look like a supermodel, you have no problems being accepted. Anything else, and you might as well be invisible. A line in the movie, Broken Hearts Club said it perfectly; "This is a community filled with 10s, on the prowl for an 11. And unfortunately, I'm a 7. " That is how a lot of Chubs feel. Going to a club or a bar, Chubs cannot help but feel invisible, like they don't even exist. So a lot of Chubs do not go out at all. They have been hurt so many times by the constant rejection from the gay community. It has become so disheartening that many Chubs retreat further and further into their house. Why put up with that rejection night after night
But bathhouses are different. As I have mentioned, the baths is the only gay environment where you can see a cross-section of the gay community. Every group is there, all interacting amongst each other. Each and every time I visit the baths there are at least one or two Chubs walking the hallways at any given time. And although rejection is part of the territory at the baths, a lot of these Chubs feel safe in that atmosphere. If you get rejected there are other things a Chub can do. Take a sauna, sit in the whirlpool, or watch porn. Now if you really want to find a cub at the baths, head to the dark room, where anonymous sex is truly anonymous! The dark room is pitch dark, so you can't see anything. Let's face it, since the gay community is looks obsessed and superficial, the dark room is a place where chubs can feel on an equal level with everyone else. The dark room is a place where Chubs can get laid, anonymously of course, albeit in total darkness. So if you are looking for a chub at the baths, the dark room is a quick palce to find them.
Bathhouses know Chubs are a regular part of Bathhouse culture. They actually have king size towels, ready and available for any Chub that might drop by the baths. Amazingly, a lot of guys who like Chubs, like Malcolm, have been tuned into this. They know that a majority of very large guys go to the baths seeking comfort. So the Chasers go on the prowl, hoping to find a very big guy. And if that doesn't work, Chasers will go on-line. For instance, Malcolm spends time scanning profiles on sex websites looking for a Chub. If he finds one, he sends them a message, asking the Chub to come over to his place. But many of these Chubs are wary, not sure if this is a prank or not. So Malcolm proposes the next best thing. Let's meet at the baths. And so, over the years I have seen Malcolm arrive at the baths with different Chubs. Two hours later (!) I notice him and his Chub in the shower area washing each other up after sex. And then afterwards, Malcolm and his Chub take a dip in the whirlpool and just hold each other for what seems to be a long time. Doesn't that sound sweet
But it is not just Malcolm. I have seen my share of hot, good-looking guys come to the baths searching for a Chub as well. In fact, some of these guys are even friends of Malcolm's! They ignore everyone else, but when a 350-pound man hits the scene, they pounce. I remember one time I was taking a shower and this cute muscular blond guy came in and started to take a shower by himself. A brunette guy noticed this young blond guy, and immediately started to cruise him. The young brunette guy started stroking his erect dick, hoping to attract the blond guy. Suddenly a 350-pound Chub walked into the shower area, and immediately the Chub and the blond guy started kissing and rubbing soap over each others body. It was obvious that they were a couple. The brunette guy looked stunned for a split second. Then left the shower area, hoping to find someone else. Like I said before, no matter how hot you are, everyone gets shot down at one time or another!
Another group that has no hesitation being with a Chub are GAM (Gay Asian Men). Why, you might ask Again as I've mentioned in previous essays, GAM are obsessed with anything that is white. GAM will go out with white men that are 65 year-old or 450 pounds, or even both! As long as they are white, that is all that matters. Again, it is that need to build up that empty vacuum of self-esteem that all GAM have. And the only way to fill up that empty vacuum is by being with a white guy.
So for any Chub reading this, let me assure you that there is hope. There are cute guys that find you HOT! So if you are a very large man, and a bit nervous about taking the plunge to meet new people, think about this.
In life, good things happen and bad things happen. But if you do not take a chance, nothing happens.
A line straight out of Golden Girls!