Open Relationships
There comes a point in any long-term gay relationship that a change is needed. While a couple can love each other, and cannot imagine a life without each other, the sex can get stale. In short, couple's need to have new sexual experiences outside the relationship. To try new things, experiment and get a taste of someone new. All gay relationships evolve to a new level sooner or later. This level is called - the Open Relationship.
Now, everyone knows what an open relationship is, but for all you newbies (newly out of the closet) who do not know, I will explain. As I mentioned, sex between two men can get boring after a few years. If each party is willing, they can seek out new sexual experiences outside the relationship. But there are ground rules that each party must follow.
Here are the most common rules that I have heard. Each party will NOT tell the other about what experience they have had. Each party MUST practice safe sex at all times (some couples even have a no anal rule).
Each party CANNOT bring someone home. Finally, if either one of the parties is out of town, permission is given that either party can seek out a new sexual experience. Now I bet you are wondering what this has to do with the baths. Well some couples take it one step further; some couples actually go to the baths together to seek out new experiences. Or some guys just go to the baths solo, behind their partner's back simply to have a quickie with someone else. I will give you some observations I have seen over the years.
Jay goes to the baths at least once a week. Jay and his partner make a day out of it. On the weekend, they will get up, go for brunch, do some shopping and then at 4 PM, they go their separate ways. One of them goes to one bathhouse, and the other goes to another. Jay is somewhat attractive; he has a receding hairline, hairy all over, and a nice body. But man does he ever score, especially with some really gorgeous guys. It is not uncommon for him to score at least three times each visit. In my observations at the baths, there are just some men who luck out. They have this certain something about themselves that just pulls people to them. Jay is like that. He does not have to leave his room. He just lies there and men go to him. Jay and his partner spend 8 hours (4PM to Midnight) at separate bathhouses, and then they go home. They never say to each other how it went or what happened. Moreover, in seven days, it will start all over again.
As I had mentioned a lot of guys go to the baths solo, with or without their partner's permission. One time at the baths I saw this cute guy staring at me. I smiled back and within five minutes we were in my room. He was like a man who had not eaten in weeks! He sucked me, he rimmed me, and he licked me all over. UNBELIEVEABLE! This went on for an hour and a half. Finally he just exhausted himself, and we both came. In the afterglow he told me about his relationship with his boyfriend. His partner has a heart condition so serious that he cannot overexert himself it by making love. The only things they can do are to kiss and hold each other. So the boyfriend (with the heart condition) allows his partner to go to the baths once a month, simply to get off. Sex only once a month, no wonder why he was so starving!
But some couples do go to the baths together. One couple I know will each purchase a room, but makes sure that each room is extremely far away from one another. Then they do their own thing, oblivious to each other. In their interactions together at the baths, a person looking in from the outside would mistake them as friends, rather than partners. One of the men in the relationship, told me that either party can go on the prowl solo at the baths, but only if the other person is out of town. I do not have the heart to tell him that I have seen his partner solo at the baths, even when neither person was out of town.
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