One thing that is so synonymous about the baths is all of the quickie sex that takes place on an hourly basis. My personal feeling is that if you are at the baths and you notice a cute guy, he notices you, why not go up to a room and enjoy each others time. Well, many guys have told me they like quickies, because it is just that, quick and to the point. There is no intimacy, no getting to know the other person, no emotional bonding. Guys would rather save those feelings of pure lovemaking with someone they truly care for. That is one reason why many guys do not purchase a room when they visit the baths. By getting a room, you are preparing for the possibility of sharing some quality time with another person. Since most guys only want to get off at the baths, getting a locker makes the most sense. If you are in the middle of a quickie encounter, you have a good excuse why you cannot continue your sexual interlude. You have no room. That is a great way to stop things from progressing any further. Remember that is how the baths operate: quick and easy sex. No names are known, no contact information is exchanged, and you do not have to be polite trying to get to know the other person. Each of you just views the other person as an object; for the pure enjoyment of each other's body so both of you can get off.
In fact, many guys have told me that they do not even kiss other guys they may encounter at the baths. Oral sex - no problem; Anal – pass the lube; But kissing – NO WAY! you would think it would be the other way around. I have personally always equated oral sex as such a personal, intimate, bonding experience between two people who truly care for one another. This is the opportunity to let go and give completely to the other person. But I have to get my head out of a heterosexual mindset. In the gay world, it is the other way around. In the gay world, kissing is the equivalent to displaying intimate contact between two guys who truly love each other. Being blown or laid, you can get that anywhere. Real, physical, intimate contact, guys want to save that for that future boyfriend.
However, let us face reality. Because it is so hard to find a partner or boyfriend, many guys are single for years between relationships. In addition, how many gay relationships do you know that lasted over a year? Therefore, quickie sex becomes a way to get-off, in between that never-ending quest to find Mr. Right. So where do you go to fulfill your sexual cravings with a quickie? Why the baths of course.
At the baths you have so many guys just looking for a fast blowjob or f**k. They do not seem to care where it takes place, as long as it is quick and to the point. One time I saw this businessman come in, all dressed to the nines. He took his clothes off, f***ked someone in their room, showered, dressed and left. All in 20 minutes! You would think that when a guy enters the baths with six hours to spare, he would have all the time in the world to spend with a guy he finds hot. Again, it is that intimacy issue. Men really do not want to get close to a guy, unless something will develop. Gay men just want to get off, until the next time. That is what is so great about the baths. Sex is so accessible and so easy, you can cut right to the chase. It is not uncommon to see men have three to five different quickies in an hour! Or be in and out of the baths in ten minutes. Alas, you know the saying; variety is the spice of life. Now there are a couple of places these quickies can take place in a bathhouse: The wet area (sauna/steam/whirlpool/shower), the porn lounge, and finally the orgy room.
The Wet Area
The wet area is a place where men will converge eventually during their travels inside a bathhouse. The wet area usually has a shower area, a whirlpool, a sauna and/or steam room, sink and mirrors, and the toilet. Sometimes the traffic in the wet area is wall-to-wall men, as cruising and looking for the next lay is at its most feverish pitch. Eventually a lot of guys cruising the hallways of a bathhouse will wind up in the sauna/steam room. A quickie encounter between two guys in the sauna/steam room will happen one or two ways. Either the two guys wind up there by accident, or one of the guys cruises or follows the other guy into the sauna/steam room. When the two guys are in the sauna/steam room eye contact is first established, to see if there is any interest. If there is interest, one of the guys will start to stroke to full erection. If the other guy is uninterested, he will leave. But if he stays, the next step is touching each other's hard-ons. Finally oral is performed on each other. Now there might be other people in the sauna/steam room watching the whole thing. As I had mentioned in Voyeurism what is the etiquette to watch and not to watch. This is how I handle it. If I am in the sauna/steam room and two guys suddenly come in and start making out, then I can stay and watch. I got there first, and if they had a problem with me there, they would not have come in. However, if the couple had gotten in the sauna/steam room before me, and started making out, I would stay away. You do not know if they are comfortable or not with people watching. Most times men do not like other men watching them have sex. If a couple feels that there are too many eyes watching, they will leave to find a private area. Unfortunately, there are guys at the baths that will stalk a couple trying to have a quickie. These men will follow a couple from room to room, wanting to "watch". That is poor Bathhouse Etiquette. However, there are couples that are pure exhibitionists and have no problems with an audience. Therefore, if there is a crowd watching two guys going at it, then you can join the crowd and watch as well. Let us face it; it is a live sex show with full hard-ons. How often do you see that, porn movies notwithstanding.
These quickies in a sauna/steam room usually last ten to fifteen minutes. Because of the heat inside the sauna/steam room, fresh air is needed to breath. They leave to go continue their liaison elsewhere in the baths. But there are some guys with amazing staying power, and they can go at it in that wet heat for an hour! Staying that long in the sauna/steam room is bound to attract a crowd. If bunches of guys are watching, sometimes other men will join in, to make it a threesome or even a foursome. But what is the etiquette for joining in? It really depends on the situation. If you happen to see two guys getting it on, wait for a signal that you can join in. A wink, nod or even a hand wave will give you an indication. If you see none, that means they do not want or need a third party. If you join in without a sign, you may be pushed away, either gently or very forcefully. That is embarrassing, so wait for the signals. If you do not care about being shot down, then go for it. But be aware you may be physically pushed away. Again, this type of rejection you cannot take personally, that is just the way the baths are like.
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