If you want to be a regular patron at the baths, there is one sexual activity you need to master to be a pro. No I’m not talking about being a good top or an expert cocksucker. You really need to know how to have sex while standing up.
When you think of sex you think of being horizontal, not vertical. Very rarely do guys want to spend up to an hour with a guy. Nope they want it fast, they want it quick and they want it as many times as possible. I wrote about this in my essay Quickies.
As a result you will see guys having sex standing up. Even if they have a room, the thinking is why waste time? In fact sex at the baths happens more outside of the rooms, than inside the rooms. Plus there are so many places at the baths where sex can take place. The sauna, the steamroom, the hallway, the whirlpool, the shower area, the dark room and the list goes on.
Having sex in the horizontal position is not as easy as it looks. It is a hard balancing act as you and your partner are naked going at it. Trying to hold on to your towel in one hand, while the other hand is stroking off a nice cock. Very inconvenient having sex with just one hand. You don’t want to drop that towel on the floor, so you have no choice but to hold it. My only advice is to throw that towel around your neck. But even that can be awkward. You want each other’s chest to be skin to skin. But you both have these big white fluffy towels in the way around the neck.
You think that is tricky, try getting rimmed while standing. The only recourse there is to bend over and spread those legs. Because there is no position, standing up, that you can lift your legs up. And what about trying to fuck someone? The only way is to do it against a wall
Or you might be sucking a cock while in a squatting position. Which makes juggling a towel even harder in that position. But if you like to give blowjobs, you are in gay heaven at the baths. No shortage of places where you can blow someone, with so many available cocks to blow. It is truly a buyers market. Not to mentions loads to glory holes to lurk around. But because guys will mostly be standing, practice your squatting position. But hey it is a great exercise for the muscles of the thighs, hips and buttocks. Two for the price of one!
Instead of trying to fuck in the most awkward positions standing, why don’t more guys want to go back to someone’s room? You would think that would be a no brainier. From what I’ve observed, going to someone’s room gives more of a guy than they are willing to give. That is the personal side. Sure a guy can be hardcore and animalistic when it comes to sex. But stepping into someone’s room crosses the line of giving oneself to a particular person. Guys at the baths like to separate the personal and the sex. Sex is sex – period. My insides are for me. And I’m not giving that to you.
Case in point. There is one guy that is 6 foot, blond, blue eyed, with a really well defined body. He can walk into any gay bar and get any guy he wants. And he is a regular at the baths. But he absolutely refuses to go into a guy’s room, or even speak to anyone. He dresses in a bathing suit, goes into the dark room and just stands there. What he basically wants is to be body worshipped and sucked off. And he gets what he wants. On any given time there can be up to five guys pawing all over him, Sucking his tits, his cock, running their hands all over his body. But no kissing (too personal) and no words exchanged. He never goes after anyone. Rather he stands in a corner and waits for guys to come to him. He makes sure that his feet are firmly planted on the ground, so nobody can steal his bathing suit. Or sure guys have tried, so they can get him completely naked. But with his feet glued to the floor, that bathing suit just rests around his ankles.
Another reason for so much sex happening standing up is the lack of a room. Many times you will meet up with a guy, and neither of you have a room. So you cannot even go to a room even if you wanted to. So you have to find some place in that bathhouse where you can have sex. Fortunately many baths have offered a solution to this problem. They have standing booths that are just like telephone booths, only without the telephone. So and your hookup go into the booth, shut the door and let magic happen. It is awkward and hard to maneuver standing up. But what choice do you have? It is either that, or no sex at all as neither of you has a room for privacy.
Which leads us to another problem, the amount of people watching you having sex. If there are no booths for privacy you have no choice but to do it out in the open. Of course others will notice what you are doing, having sex out in the open like that. If you are an exhibitionist and have no problem with guys watching you will be fine. But some are a bit shy about giving a blow-job while guys watching. It is probably okay to watch from a distance. But some guys can be pretty rude about how they watch.
There are some guys who get really up close. Like standing right next to you, nose to nose, while he is jerking his cock off. 9 out of 10 tines these guys are also out of shape and not the most attractive (yes I know, but hey we are all superficial). Ignoring all the signs (to get lost) they think they might want to join in as well. This can be annoying, as you are having a good time, yet you are trying to get rid of this un-invited guy.
Here is the etiquette for this situation. If you see two guys having sex, and neither guy could pass as your twin, just observe. Watch from a distance, and don’t join in. But what if one of the men could pass as your twin? Same advice as above, but watch them intently. If you get a nod or a signal from either, slink over and join in.
Another reason for having sex while standing is not to break the mood. Things get hot and you are having a great time. One of you suggests going back to his room, so you do. Upon arrival inside the room there is no connection. Before you were kissing and sucking, having a great time. Now you are in the privacy of a room and you find that you are not sexually compatible. You are both bottoms, or you don’t like to rim, or you don’t find him that attractive under the neon lighting. There could be a variety of reasons. But many times when you stop to go to someone’s room, the mood gets broken. So don’t surprised when the guy you are with resists going back to your room. Two reasons, either he wants it quick and fast. Or he doesn’t want to break the mood, because that has happened to him before.
If you take anything from this essay about having sex standing up at the baths, take this piece of advice. Tall lanky guys make the best lovers standing up.